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If anyone has the time & ability to give me some insight/perspective/advice, I would truly so appreciate it!!!
Here is my situation: I graduated in May, planned to take one gap year, took the LSAT in September, and am now recognizing that I need far more time to study for the LSAT if I want to have a legitimate shot at my goal schools. I would like to attend a T14, so I am determined to score in the 170s. I was BRing around this score (but..my score would fluctuate quite a bit). Thus, I was not too surprised when I scored a 163 on the September test.
Basically, I am certain that if I took more time, I could score much higher, which would give me a good shot at the schools I am hoping to get into. So (partly since I am 21 and am personally in no urgent rush to start law school as soon as possible) I want to just take the time to study more for the LSAT and wait another year to apply to schools. However, my parents are very against this, and they think that November should be my last shot, and whatever score I get..that's the score I get. They honestly do not have many reasons for this, aside from just wanting me to get started with law school and not take any more time than necessary. I do not think they fully grasp the significance of everything from the LSAT score to the ranking of the law school one attends, but they are also not particularly amenable to me trying to explain it to them (they are both attorneys themselves, but honestly I do not think their experience was the same as it is today).
Has anyone has walked a road similar to this one before? Or anyone have any insight on how I should go about this? I am keenly aware that this is a highly personal situation that is very specific to my life, but I also believe that many law school applicants have had to have gone through this before, and I would really love to hear some perspectives on the matter. Do you have any advice on how I should go about this with my parents? Thanks in advance to anyone who can help!!
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Thank you so much!! I appreciate all your input!❤️ @leahbeuk911
Congrats, I'm so glad this worked out for you! (3(/p)
@figueroa10040 Those are all incredibly helpful ideas & very practical tips. Thanks so very much!!!
Maybe send them some links to webinars or podcasts on youtube or the podcast websites, like ThinkingLSAT, 7Sage AMAs, and similar so they can listen to other accounts of the long journeys people have been on and the increased opportunities they received once they reached their goal scores on the live exam. Also, maybe go Law School Transparency and/or the ABA website and/or Spivey and send them links to articles on the cost of law school and future finances. Maybe also tell them you're only going to be in this age range once and you want to make sure you get a chance to travel or pursue some similar opportunities before settling into a binding career commitment. And maybe go to a forum, open house, fair, or law school visit and invite them to the family/friends portions of it if they have time, and/or send them a synopsis. Just saw there was some acceptance when you talked with them, which I'm glad for--it's important for friends and family to be informed of the great challenges of this exam. Maybe this will help someone else in a similar situation. Keep pursuing the LSAT dream and we're here for you. Here's to 1L enrollment in 2019 and/or 2020. :)
I completely agree! Thank you!! @akikookmt881
Thanks so much, @leahbeuk911 !! And yes, will do!!
Woohoo congrats! Now you can focusing on destroying this test and proving to your parents that you knew what you were talking about :wink:
There are some great pieces of advice here and I'm glad you worked things out! Good luck!! :smiley:
Yes! I’m on it!
@elliegjohnson612 said:
Just wanted to follow up and thank you all for your super helpful input! I presented it to my parents, and it went really well - thanks to all of you. So I am now officially waiting another year to apply and postponing taking the LSAT again to the summer. And my parents are behind it. I feel so much relief and peace about this decision, and I know it is the correct thing for me to do at this point in my life. So thank you all so so much for everything!!! And I wish you all the best on each of your law school journeys:)
Congratulations. Now get to work studying!
Just wanted to follow up and thank you all for your super helpful input! I presented it to my parents, and it went really well - thanks to all of you. So I am now officially waiting another year to apply and postponing taking the LSAT again to the summer. And my parents are behind it. I feel so much relief and peace about this decision, and I know it is the correct thing for me to do at this point in my life. So thank you all so so much for everything!!! And I wish you all the best on each of your law school journeys:)
@drbrown2259 Yes!! Great advice:) Thank you!
@lucykelly459 Thank you for sharing that! Those are very helpful tips, and I will be sure to print out some of those stats you mentioned. Also, yes, you honestly nailed it on the head with where they're coming from with their perspective on law school rankings. Thank you for your insight!!
Just tell them "Trust me, trust me, trust me..." and walk away. Tell them "I am not settling for this score. I can do so much better. Since when is it good to settle?" Good luck!
@dtutt317306 Thank you for that! Yes, that is super true. I have not really explained that to them either. I will do that! Thanks so much. And wishing you the best with your applications and scholarship offers!
First of all you did a great job on the LSAT from just studying for a few months.
I agree that you should print out employment stats (Aba and NALP data) and print out the LSAC chances of acceptance at a top school with your current lsat score vs. your goal score. And LSN data on scholarships. Find articles on how much law schools value work experience and show your parents that you're applying for xyz jobs and signing up for xyz volunteer work.
Unless your parents are both paying for your law school entirely and have secured a job for you after graduation, then I'm not sure why you would even discuss law school with them beyond a friendly life update conversation. Many older attorneys have absolutely no idea what they are talking about. The legal market isn't the same as it was decades ago. They might think i.e. I work at this law firm and most of the attorneys here went to third tier schools. They dont realize that their specific situation isn't representative of the entire legal market and they likely don't know the low $60k starting salary of a large portion of new attorneys from non-t14s.
If you really can’t convince them otherwise, and if they're threatening to cut you off financially and you're literally facing homelessness if you don't apply this cycle, then just lie that you're applying this cycle but are studying to retake the lsat to increase your merit scholarship chances. I really doubt they're monitoring your computer and you really don't need to divulge every detail to your parents.
My parents 100% doubted my ability to get a high lsat score and didn't see the point of me studying to retake and reapply. They did not share these doubts with me until after I got my retake score back and they were like wow congrats we were worried you were wasting your time. I was working full time though so I think that may be a part of why they didnt put much pressure on me since at the very least I'm taking this time to pay off my undergrad loans.
@leahbeuk911 Thank you for sharing that! Yes, I believe that you are right -- my parents would not be thrilled with the results if I tried to apply with a lower score this cycle, so either way their reactions would not be ideal. And that is a helpful example. Yes, I would say I am in a similar position as that friend (since I have a 3.9 from a top public university) and rushing into my applications would be unwise. I really just need to take this time to get the score I need, and at this point I really am planning to wait another year and just figure out the best way to go about it with my parents:) So thank you for your insight! All of you have been so kind and helpful; I appreciate it SO much!!
It helps to put it into monetary terms too. The scholarship potential is the biggest upside for most people. Just explain to them that getting about 10 more questions correct on the test can translate into tens of thousands of scholarship offers. For me I'm letting folks know I want to get into the best Law schools in the country but more importantly, I want to graduate law school with little to no debt.
@drbrown2259 Yes, very true. That reason, in addition to the reason of improving my LSAT score and getting into a better school, is definitely one of my top reasons for wanting to postpone. I agree that being one year older and having acquired that additional life experience and wisdom will be very beneficial for my law school career. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter! I appreciate it a lot.
@wrasschaert283 That is incredibly helpful advice. Thank you so much. I think you are completely right regarding providing them with a concrete plan, and I will definitely do that. Thank you!!
@wrasschaert283 said:
Speaking as a parent of four (oldest in a master’s program and the next oldest currently a high school senior / applying to undergrad), I think it might help assuage your parent’s concerns if you gave them a concrete plan, i.e. I’m taking this specific time period to study using X materials in order to score Y when I take Z date test so that I can get into “Insert Gold Star” school. This will allow me to do 123 work when I graduate. Additionally, I will be doing volunteer work A and intern work B, etc. That might sell better than “I want to take another year to study.”
If that doesn’t work (or if you already went this route), I agree with Leah in that you need to do a little cord cutting. This is your life and you only get to do law school once. Make sure its the one you want to go to. This is your decision, not your parents.
This!! Totally second this advice!
Delay a year and study more for the best possible score. Your parents sound like the type that would shame you for not getting into top schools so, either way, whether you apply early with a bad score or delay with a better score, they'll be less than happy. Might as well take the option that is better for your future and delay.
Anecdotal: my friend who was a summa cum laude at my undergrad was pressured by her dad to apply to med school immediately. She had to severely rush her application and ended up getting into a distant state school. Her dad then shamed her for not getting into better schools so she ended up making her dad unhappy anyway. The point is...just make the best decision for your future. Show them LSN results with different LSAT scores or show them how law schools explicitly say they want work experience, etc. Whatever it takes to get them to understand your decision a bit better.
Law school is a beast and your summer jobs will keep you extremely busy in between semesters. Next comes the bar exam... Why rush into that and put yourself at a significant disadvantage compared to your peers who you are competing with for grades and an eventual job? I'm not suggesting that being a 21 year old in law school would prevent you from being extremely successful, but if you aren't eager to start it may be an obstacle you will have to overcome on top of learning a new way of thinking, reading, researching, and writing. The decision has immediate financial implications as well. You could be foregoing hundreds of thousands of dollars in potential scholarship money by applying with your score on record, or applying late in the cycle with your "last shot" score.
Maybe if you explained the strategy behind the admissions game and the benefits of applying at the beginning of a cycle with a top 2%-3% score it might help them support your decision. November isn't too late, but putting that kind of pressure on yourself may be counterproductive.
Good luck with your decision. Keep working hard and be strategic in your decision making.
Speaking as a parent of four (oldest in a master’s program and the next oldest currently a high school senior / applying to undergrad), I think it might help assuage your parent’s concerns if you gave them a concrete plan, i.e. I’m taking this specific time period to study using X materials in order to score Y when I take Z date test so that I can get into “Insert Gold Star” school. This will allow me to do 123 work when I graduate. Additionally, I will be doing volunteer work A and intern work B, etc. That might sell better than “I want to take another year to study.”
If that doesn’t work (or if you already went this route), I agree with Leah in that you need to do a little cord cutting. This is your life and you only get to do law school once. Make sure its the one you want to go to. This is your decision, not your parents.
@wrasschaert283 Haha yes!!
And that is so helpful to hear your experience! That really solidifies for me what I am thinking I should do right now. I am so happy for you that you were able to take that time and get into such an amazing school!
Also, you are so right, this extended year would be entirely necessary for me to get into the range of schools I am aiming to get into. I appreciate your insight!
@leahbeuk911 Thank you so much for that! Yes, I think that is an excellent idea to show them tangible, printed-out reasons for precisely why I am taking this stance. And it is kind of still undecided how much they will help with paying for law school, if at all. But I completely agree with you! And yes, I did move back in after I graduated in May, so I agree that I may have to move back out to make this happen. Thank you!!